My thoughts are all over the place right now and I really should be studying for exams this week, but I just keep thinking about this and I want to just write it all out. I feel like it could help someone and it might be just what someone needs. This is going to be all over the place without any structure; I hope you don’t mind!
The help and support page on the anti-bullying alliance website has links to loads of helplines where you can anonymously discuss bullying, websites where you can find help and support and places where you can report cyberbullying. There is so much more on their website that you may find helpful.
I just want you to know that the people who tell you that you can’t achieve what you want to achieve, that you can’t do what you want to do, that you can’t be who you are; the people who bully you and make you question your self worth, that bring you down every single day, they’re all just jealous of you. They all want to have as much ambition, self-belief and confidence as you do. They want to be kind-hearted and beautiful inside and out just like you are.
You have to know that you’re doing nothing wrong, you’re doing everything right. These people that are being nasty to you, they loath themselves, these people need someone to bring down and because you are being 100% you and they wish they could do that too, they chose to bring you down.
Having bad things going on in your life is no excuse to treat someone else badly and make them fell bad about themselves. Even people with the most awful things going on still manage to be good people and spread that little bit of positivity that they have left.
You should not be nice to these people and accept the awful things they might be doing because they do not deserve it, but you should not hate them and you should try not to be nasty back. They hate themselves more than you could probably imagine and having another person hating them is going to prevent them from being the good person they could become and it’s just going to bring more self-hate to them. Just ignoring them and getting on with being you is going to make them realise that they will get no where hating on you because nothing they say or do to you can drag you down.
For someone to hate you and not want to see you succeed, you must be such a kind person with a kind and beautiful heart and you should be proud that people envy you. Those people are only thinking about you because they can’t bare to think about themselves. If they stopped thinking about you, they’d have to think about themselves and it would be hell constantly thinking about yourself if you hated you. They block themselves out of their mind and bring you into it because they actually don’t hate you; they want to be you, they want to be as amazing as you are.
You have to prove your haters wrong, you have to keep showing that you are a better person than all of them. And in 20 years when you just so happen to think of them in between all of the great things you’re doing in your life, you’ll realise that they are long gone and they are not doing amazing things with their life like you are because you were the better person and they wasted all of their time and energy trying to prevent you from achieving your dreams too.
But all of their hate and disbelief in you has built you into a stronger, kinder-hearted and more beautiful person and has been the thing that has enabled you to achieve all that you want to achieve. If you are being bullied, know that it doesn’t last forever, know that these people hate themselves and they need someone else to hate, or actually envy and try to prevent from succeeding as it’s inevitable that you will.
No matter what these people might be going through at home or in their personal lives, it’s no excuse to treat you badly. There does sometimes come a point where you can’t ignore it and you have to speak up and tell someone what’s happening, and that doesn’t make you weak, it doesn’t mean you’ve failed.
You can also take a positive from the situation and use their negative words to make yourself stronger. You are strong, you are kind and you are beautiful. People will inevitably tell you otherwise, but please, never ever believe them.
If you want to or need to, please tell a trusted parent, sibling, family member, friend, teacher or guidance counsellor who can either help you to sort things out or just support you. It’s always good to make someone aware of what’s going on.
I’d also be really happy to talk to and give advice to anyone who’d like it. You can leave a comment on this post or you can privately contact me by clicking here, and I’ll do my best to get back to you as soon as I possibly can.