School Bag Essentials & Tips

As it’s unfortunately around the time a lot of us are going back to school I thought I’d make a post related to school. Back when I started high school I read endless posts and watched endless videos with a similar concept to this and I found them so helpful. They helped me get really prepared and I had everything I needed and everything everyone else needed. Still to this day, everyone in my year knows to come to me if they need anything. That makes me sound really organised and I guess in terms of school I am, but in every other way I’m not – behind closed doors, I’m truly a disorderly mess. But anyway, I thought some of you might find this helpful whatever level of schooling you’re in but especially if you’re starting high school. I also have a bit of advice and a few tips included in this post so I hope you find that helpful too. Let me know if I’ve missed any essentials and if you are staring a new school soon, good luck, and I hope you all have a great year. Be sure to be back here next Sunday at 6pm BST for another post.

First of all, you need to get a suitable bag that is appropriate for school. I would recommend a backpack so you can fit more in it and it will be easy to carry around. But if you’re like me you’ll insist on a handbag which will hurt you’re shoulder and back, but you’ll still continue to use them, year after year. And you need a reasonable sized bag because you will have a lot of school stuff. But if you’re like me you’ll use the smallest bag you can possibly find and each day have to decide whether you’ll get in more trouble for not bringing your gym stuff or for not bringing any of your folders, and if you decided on the folders, what folder you’ll get in the most trouble for not bringing. Just get a decent sized bag. It’ll save you a lot of time and from a lot of trouble.

I find that if you make sure you pack your books for the next day, the night before, you’ll never forget anything. I’d also recommend not leaving your homework to the last minute and doing it as soon as you get a chance to so that you don’t rush it and do it all wrong. I did that for a couple of years and I was always really stressed out about it. And so that you don’t forget that you have homework, I recommend recording it as soon as you’re given it in a planner. I personally like A5 horizontal planners with two days per page but find what works best for you. I would really recommend doing this because in the past year I’ve only forgotten my homework once (and I didn’t forget to do it, I just left it at home).

On days when I do wear makeup to school (which is only one or two days out of five) I like to take some makeup with me for touch ups. I like to take the Collection Cover Up Stick Concealer because more often than not, I have a blemish or two that I need to recover. I also like to take the Rimmel Stay Matte Pressed Powder which is my favourite powder for powdering my t-zone as I get quite oily throughout the day. To apply the powder I always have my Real Techniques Multi Task Brush from the Real Techniques Essentials Set. I always have a lip balm with me wherever I go because the most annoying thing is having dry lips. A favourite of mine is the Burt’s Bees Beeswax Lip Balm as it’s so hydrating. I also hate having dry hands so I always make sure I have hand cream with me. The one which I’m currently using is the Soap & Glory Mini Hand Food Hand Cream which is really good and the mini size makes it great for your school bag/handbag. I keep all of these things in my Next Alphabet Makeup Bag which is a great size, not too big but still fits everything inside.

I always have my Jack Wills Makeup Pouch (which seems to be discontinued) which I use as my ’emergency kit.’ I got this idea from peoples ‘what’s in my handbag’ videos and blog posts about three years ago and I’ve always had one in my schoolbag/hand bag since. In this bag I keep tampons because either myself or someone else will need one. I have the Carex Aloe Vera Hand Gel (sanitizer) because school is literally disgusting. I keep the Tweezerman Lighted Mirror because I like to look at myself. I always make sure I have hair bobbles because a horrible PE teacher (not even my PE teacher) always makes me tie my hair up incase it ‘affects my performance’ (I don’t know what ‘performance’ she’s talking about because I do nothing) and I also have kirby grips/bobby pins/hair grips because you never know when you or someone else will need one. I keep tissues in the bag because I often find that I need them for all kinds of things. I never leave the house without paracetamol because everyone seems to have a headache all the time and ibuprofen because everyone seems to have cramps all the time.

Other things I like to have in my bag are the Ted Baker Pink Body Spray because I want to smell nice and I also always make sure I have some Garnier Mineral Invisible Anti Perspirant which is my favourite deodorant. I like to have chewing gum because although I don’t often chew chewing gum, I do sometimes and there is always someone who wants a bit. I prefer mints so I always have Polo Sugar Free Mints. I hate nothing more than being hungry and I get really ‘hangry.’ I know I’m not fun to be around when I’m hungry so I always make sure I have a snack or two. My favourite snacks are Nakd Bars and these are vegan, gluten, wheat and dairy free, most of them count as one of your five a day and they are made with wholefoods only. I also make sure I always have my phone charger, earphones and some spare money for obvious reasons.

And now, on to the things you actually need. Firstly, you’ll need a pencil case and my choice of pencil case is not a pencil case. It’s the Ted Baker Small Pink Katient Makeup Bag (discontinued). In my pencil case I have black pens because I prefer to write in pen and I have mechanical pencils because I have to use them in maths and I’m to lazy to sharpen them. I have erasers with me all the time because even though I don’t often use pencil someone always needs an eraser. Other things I also have are pencil sharpeners and highlighters because I sometimes need them too.

I also find having a planner so helpful as I previously mentioned as I find it just keeps me really organised. The one that I like is the WHSmith 2017-18 A5 Black Academic Mid Year Diary but I recommend finding one that you find easy to use. I also like having a folder with dividers and sections to put any things you have and the divers will help you organise them into subjects. I also find it so helpful having a notebook to keep in your bag all the time so you don’t have to worry if you forget a book for a certain subject. I also keep a scientific calculator in my bag because I often need it in maths and sciences.

Best New Beauty Launches – Summer 2017

I thought it would be a good idea to do a post telling you about some of the best new beauty launches. I thought that some people might find this helpful as I’ll be telling you about the new beauty launches that are worth knowing about and having a look at. Let me know if I’ve missed any good launches and let me know if you’ve tried any of these products as I’d be interested to know what people think as there are no reviews yet as these are so new. Be back next Sunday at 6pm BST for a new post!

Hourglass Confession Ultra Slim Refillable Lipstick (£28/9g (Refill £18/9g)) – Hourglass have released a new range of lipsticks which is really exciting to see. They have full pigment, a high shine crème finish and are moisturising on the lips. I believe they come in 28 different shades that would look good on a wide variety of people – there is something for everyone in this range which is amazing. A great thing about these is that when you’ve ran out, you don’t have to repurchase a new lipstick, you only have to buy a refill which will save you £10 (and yes, you do get the same amount of product).

Marc Jacobs Eye-Conic Longwear Eyeshadow Palette (£39) – Marc Jacobs have just released six new eyeshadow palettes each containing seven eyeshadows which are formulated using their new super-plush shadow formulation. Each palette contains four different finishes but all of them are long lasting and pigmented. As there are six different colour options there is going to be at least one for everyone and these would also make an amazing gift for any beauty lover as they are so luxurious.

Bobbi Brown Instant Full Cover Concealer (£23/6ml) – New from Bobbi Brown is their first full coverage liquid concealer. It’s especially for the under eyes and it works to cover and brighten even the worst dark circles. Even though it offers high coverage, it has a light weight feel and gives a natural finish. It claims to last all day without creasing and it’s available in 15 shades.

Urban Decay Naked Heat Palette (£39.50) – Urban Decay is releasing a brand new naked palette which is the most exciting thing ever! There are 12 super on trend warm shades including warm browns, burnt oranges and rich siennas. You could create so many different looks with this palette for day or for night. These are pigmented, long lasting and blendable. The packaging is amazing, it comes with a double ended brush and there is a mirror in the palette which is great.

Becca Liquid Crystal Lip Topper Glow Gloss (£18/5g) – Everything that Becca releases makes me so excited and this new release is no exception. They are releasing crystal lip toppers in six beautiful shades. The thing about these is that each shade is a mix of different colours which gives a multi-dimensional finish. Obviously these can be worn over another lip product or alone. These are nourishing on the lips as they contain vanilla and coconut. There are six shades available and like all Becca products, the packaging is beautiful.

Violet Voss Nicol Concilio Eyeshadow Palette (£43) – You’ve probably already heard, but Violet Voss have collaborated with Nicol Concilio to make the most beautiful eyeshadow palette. There are 20 stunning shades in the palette including mattes, metallics and holographics – the looks you could create with this palette are endless. The shadows themselves are buttery, blendable and long lasting.

Benefit Hoola Quickie Contour Stick (£23.50/8.5g) – Benefit have finally made the infamous Hoola bronzer, loved by everyone and their mum, into stick form. Easy application and blendability is going to make contouring so quick and easy that everyone will be able to use this! It has a cream-powder, long-wearing formula and of course a natural but matte finish. Not only will this be amazing, it will also be great for overall natural bronzing. In my opinion, this is a versatile, easy to use and all round great product.

NYX Total Control Drop Foundation (£14/13ml) – NYX have just recently released a brand new foundation and it looks like it could be their best yet. You can control how much coverage you get from this foundation by using the dropper-tipped applicator. Using less gives you a hint of coverage, just evening out your skin tone and using more can give you a full coverage and a flawless finish. This offers a velvety-matte finish and comes in 24 shades so everyone can use this which is great to see from a drugstore brand.

Healthy What I Eat In A Day

Just before I get into this post, I wanted to thank all of you for 100 followers. I didn’t think I’d get this many followers so fast so I’m glad you’re enjoying my content. Thank you so much guys!

Today I’m going to be sharing with you what I eat in a day. I thought some of you might find this interesting and I thought it might give some of you inspiration for healthy meals and snacks. If you enjoy this I can make it a regular post because I really enjoyed writing it. Let me know what you eat in a day and make sure to tell me what you’d like to see from me next. I’ll be back with a new post next Sunday at 6pm BST.

Breakfast
I had breakfast at around 10am today because I woke up really late. For breakfast I had banana porridge which is what I have almost every day. To make this I use about 20-30g of porridge oats which I soak in unsweetened almond milk. I put that in the microwave for 1 minute and then add one mashed banana. I add a teaspoonful of honey, a teaspoonful of chia seeds and a couple of teaspoonful’s of cinnamon.

Lunch
I had my lunch at around 1:30pm and for lunch I had two mini wholemeal pitta breads. In them I had some left over homemade chili from last nights dinner. Some of the main ingredients for the chili are turkey mince, courgette and chili pepper. I also had a bowl of fresh homemade soup which contained tomatoes, carrots, red peppers, onions and potatoes.

Snack
I had a snack at around 3pm and I had some watermelon. I had around an eighth of the watermelon.

Dinner
I had my dinner around 5:30pm and I had a wholemeal wrap with chicken, lettuce, red pepper and cucumber. I also had another bowl of fresh homemade soup which contained as I said contains tomatoes, carrots, red peppers, onions and potatoes.

Snack
I had another snack around 9pm and I had some watermelon, again, around an eighth of the whole watermelon. I also had two medium sized carrots.

Drinks
Throughout the day I drank roughly 3000ml of tap water. About an hour after breakfast I had a large cup of jasmine green tea. And with my last snack of the day I had a large cup of camomile tea.

What’s In My Makeup Bag? – London 2017

I’m going to London next week and so I thought I would tell you what makeup I’m taking with me. If you have any request for posts relating to my trip (or anything for that matter) please let me know. I’ll go through the products in my makeup bag in the order I put them on my face and tell you a bit about them (if you want to know any more about any of the products let me know). I won’t include the makeup brushes I’m taking as I think that might be a bit boring but if you want to know what makeup brushes I use, I’ll do another post on that.

Bourjois Air Mat Foundation – This is the foundation that I’m currently using and it’s okay, not my favourite but I’m just using it up. It has a light/medium coverage but it is buildable so I’ll be able to use it for day and night. It has a matte but natural finish so it’s good for my quite oily skin. I thought it would be worth mentioning that I find a beauty blender gives the best results with this foundation.

Rimmel Wake Me Up Concealer – This is my favourite concealer which I’ve been using for years and I love it for under the eyes and covering minor redness/imperfections. It has a light/medium coverage (but it does cover a lot) and is really lightweight and glowy which I love.

MUA Hide & Conceal Concealer – I use this concealer for covering blemishes and more obvious redness. I’ve honestly has this concealer for about three years and I’m just finishing it off. It’s actually quite a good concealer considering it’s only £1 and it has a fairly high coverage.

Urban Decay Original Eyeshadow Primer Potion – This is a great eyeshadow primer and I really think it does improve the application and wear of my eyeshadow. Even if I’m not wearing eyeshadow, I always put a bit of this on as it stops my eyelids from getting oily.

Rimmel Stay Matte Pressed Powder – This is the best powder ever. I wouldn’t be able to do my makeup without it as it sets my makeup into place all day and I only start to get shiny after about five hours which is great for someone with oily skin.

L’Oréal Brow Artist Genius Kit – This is the eyebrow product which I find works best for me. I use the wax to define my arches and the powder to fill them in. It can be used to create natural brows or more heavy brows depending on what the overall makeup look is.

Benefit Hoola Bronzer – This is my holy grail bronzer. It is matte and it’s the perfect colour – not to orange but still bronzy. I use it for contouring too so it’s a two in one product for me which is great especially when travelling.

Becca Shimmering Skin Perfector in ‘Moonstone’ – This highlighter is so beautiful and makes you look so glowy but natural – a lit from within kind of look. It is so finely milled and this particular shade is just stunning.

Urban Decay Naked 3 Eyeshadow Palette – I’m taking this palette because I find it to be so versatile. I can use it for more natural day time looks and I can use it for a night time glam look. It has everything including pale pinks, a gorgeous copper shade, all shades of brown, a white and a black.

L’Oréal Super Liner Waterproof in ‘Black Lacquer’ – The way I tend to use this is for drawing a thin line along my lash line to make my lashes look thicker. It’s also good to have the option to do winged liner. L’Oréal liners tend to be great and this is no exception.

Maybelline Lash Sensational Mascara in ‘Black’ – This is just my favourite mascara which I know works for me so I had to take this one. It lengthens, volumises and just makes my lashes look great. Even though it’s not waterproof, I could rub my eyes or cry loads and it wouldn’t smudge at all.

Model Co Illusion Lip Liner – I chose to take this lip liner because it works with all nude and pink lip products which is all I’m taking with me anyway. It is really easy to slightly over line my lips but keep them looking natural with this.

MAC Cremesheen Lipstick in ‘Crème Cup’ – I couldn’t go anywhere without this lipstick as it us such a fail safe option for me. It’s a beautiful pale pink with a lovely creamy formula. If you want to read about any of the MAC lipsticks I mention, click here to see my MAC lipstick collection.

MAC Satin Lipstick in ‘Snob’ – I needed a slightly brighter option so I opted for this lipstick. It’s a lavender toned pink, some would describe it as a Barbie pink and as you may know, the satin formula from MAC is my favourite.

MAC Satin Lipstick in ‘Faux’ – This is my perfect more grown up mauve/nude shade that goes with pretty much any makeup look. Again, it has a satin formula which is so comfortable and long lasting.

NYX Soft Matte Lip Cream in ‘Abu Dhabi’ – I needed to bring a nude liquid lipstick and this is my favourite one. It’s just the perfect nude shade, it feels so comfortable on the lips and it is long lasting too.

Having Your Achievements Disregarded & Your Pride Destroyed

A couple of weeks ago I posted something about having your feelings and experiences dismissed and invalidated. When I was writing that I found myself thinking about something that is quite similar and ties into it, which I’ve definitely experienced is when you tell someone about something you’ve achieved, something little in their eyes but a big deal in yours, something you’re proud of, and they just destroy your pride, make you feel insignificant and make your achievement seem worthless all in a matter of seconds by using what could be as little as one word. They tell you that they or someone else has already achieved this so it’s already been done and it’s no big deal or they tell you that they or someone else has done something bigger (but not even necessarily more important) so what you’ve done is basically nothing.

It does matter how big or small the achievement is, it’s important to you, you’ve achieved something and they have no right to make you feel awful – it’s totally unnecessary to do this to someone. I really don’t like people who do this. People who do things like this generally tend to be immature, unconfident people who need to make themselves feel better by tearing others down. So actually, I feel bad for people who do this because of how they must feel about themselves. But it’s still no excuse for making someone feel awful, especially when they have achieved something which they are so happy about, or were before someone came along and destroyed it all.  Even if you think someone’s achievement is no big deal, it’s clearly a big deal to them, otherwise they wouldn’t be telling you, so be happy for them, congratulate them, it’s really very easy. They aren’t asking you to sing their praises to everyone you encounter in the next few weeks. They only want a little recognition for what they’ve done, someone to say ‘well done’ with a smile on their face and mean it. You don’t need to think about it ever again, just sincerely congratulate them and try and show some kind of interest. Even me, who according to a lot of people is a bit of a bitch, can manage to do this all the time. In fact, I do it because I want to. I want people to feel good about themselves and what they’ve done. Empowerment it what we need in this world right now. But we need to remember that people who are doing this are probably jealous, insecure so it’s best not to take it personally and to just remember that it’s them not you.

Please let me know your thoughts in the comments and let me know what other topics you want me to talk about in the future. I hope to see you back next Sunday at 6PM BST for a beauty related post.

The Summer Essentials

As it’s now well into Summer and a lot of people are heading off on holidays, I thought I’d share some of what I think are Summer essentials. And rather than just saying ‘you need this and this is the one you’ll get,’ I thought I’d give some different options and variations of each thing as no one product will suit everybody. If you know of any other good products from the categories I’ve mentioned, please let me know in the comments as I’m sure it would help others find their perfect product. Anyway, enjoy, I hope this isn’t too long and I’ll be back next Sunday at 6PM BST!

Fake Tan
Number one on the list is fake tan as I know that I for one, want to be tanned in Summer but because it’s not good to get a tan as it can cause skin cancer (please remember to wear SPF!) and sun beds are arguably worse, I’ll be getting my fake tan on. There are so many fake tans on the market and this means it can be hard to find the right fake tan for you. These suggestions might not be for you so looking at other options by these brands may be the way to go.

  • Personally, my favourite type of tans tend to be mousses. Everyone and their mum’s favourite is the St. Tropez Self Tan Classic Bronzing Mousse (£20.50/120ml, £30.50/240ml). It’s available in one shade, it gives a natural look and is completely streak free after you’ve showered. It’s a fail safe option. If that is stretching your budget a bit, an amazing, cheaper alternative that I love is the St. Moriz Professional Self Tan Mousse (£4.99/250ml). The price isn’t a reflection of how good the product is; the quality is exceptional. Like your more expensive option, it’s natural and streak free but the bonus is that it’s available in two colours.
  • Another type of tan that I love are gradual tans in the form of lotions as they are easier to maintain and tend to look more natural. A really practical option is the St. Tropez Gradual Tan In Shower Lotion (£14.50/200ml) as it’s designed to be used in the shower so you can use it as part of your daily shower regime. It gives a natural sun kissed glow which gets darker each time you use it and comes in two colours. An alternative that is just as good, which comes in at around half the price is the Dove Derma Spa Summer Revived Body Lotion (£7.79/200ml). Unlike the St. Tropez one, it is used out of the shower but is as easy to use. It gives a natural look which gradually gets darker and it’s easy to maintain too. It comes in two colours and also a new shimmer version to give a glowier look.

Coral Lipstick
The second essential on the list is a coral lipstick. Summer is the perfect time to wear a statement lipstick and corals look good on everybody, no exception, not to mention how Summery of a shade it is. I think matte corals look great as well as ones with creamier finishes. These are my recommendations.

  • I think Summer is the perfect time to treat yourself to a new luxurious lipstick, and what better way to do that than buying the Charlotte Tilbury Hot Lips in ‘Hot Emily’ (£24). The packaging is gorgeous, gives full pigment and is the only non-matte one I’ll be mentioning (it has a creamier finish).
  • If you’re looking for a matte option that you’re willing to pay mid-high end prices for, the MAC Retro Matte Liquid Lip Colour in ‘Rich & Restless’ (£17.50) might be the one for you. This is a liquid lipstick that is very matte and also longwearing which is great for long Summer days and nights. A great matte drugstore option is the NYX Soft Matte Lip Cream in ‘Manila’ (£6). These have a matte finish but feel so comfortable on the lips. These aren’t the most longwearing liquid lipsticks but they are a lot more comfortable than most and are so affordable.

Facial SPF
As I’ve said, wearing SPF, especially in Summer, is very important. Picking out an SPF from your local drugstore isn’t that hard, but what is a bit harder is finding the right facial SPF for you. That’s why I thought I’d talk about a few today.

  • The first one I’ll be mentioning is within the mid-price range and it’s the La Roche Posay Anthelios Sun Cream SPF50+ (£11 – £18). The great thing about these is that they come in so many versions – anti-shine (which I use and costs £16.50), comfort, tinted, mist, cream, gel, lotion, spray, fluid, for babies, for kids… They have something for everyone. They give full sun protection and are just all round great products.
  • If you don’t want to be spending a lot of money on your facial SPF then there are some cheaper options on the market, like Ambre Solaire Sensitive Face & Neck Sun Cream SPF50+ (£6/50ml). This one is actually a great option if you have sensitive and sun intolerant skin and gives protection against the sun all day.
  • An amazing option for people with skin issues such as acne is the Clinique Mineral Sunscreen Fluid for Face SPF50 (£22/30ml) as it’s a mineral sunscreen. It protects the skin against the sun and is also oil free so it’s suitable for all skin types including sensitive skin.

Bronzer
All year round but especially in Summer, bronzer is definitely a top essential for me and I feel like it is for most people. I think it’s the perfect time to treat yourself to a new bronzer so you can get that healthy Summer glow.

  • A classic bronzer that everyone loves is the Estee Lauder Bronze Goddess Powder Bronzer (£34). It comes in four shades so that those with the lightest and darkest skin tones can use it. It comes in a large pan, lovely packaging and it’s also oil free – it’s essentially the perfect Summer bronzer!
  • An almost identical product, just with a smaller price tag is the L’Oréal Glam Bronze Terra Bronzer (£12.99). It does only come in one shade but it has a large pan and a Summery tribal print engraved into the product. It creates such a beautiful Summery look on the skin and it is a must have.
  • Another amazing option is a brand new launch and it’s the Nars Sun Wash Diffusing Bronzer (£29). This comes in four shades including two classic Nars shades and two brand new shades which are their lightest and darkest available. They look natural on the skin giving you that beautiful tanned look.

Glowy Base
In Summer, everyone wants a beautiful glowy base to add to their natural Summery look. These are some different options that range from sheer to full coverage but all give that desired glowing finish.

  • An amazing option if you want a sheer coverage, oil free option that will still give you that glowing look, then a great option is the Aveda Inner Light Tinted Moisture SPF 15 (£26/50ml). It comes in only six shades but they still manage to cater for a wide range of skin tones and it has a dewy finish.
  • If you are after a more buildable coverage that feels weightless on the skin with a beautiful radiant finish, then the Giorgio Armani Luminous Silk Foundation (£40/30ml) is the one for you. It comes in 21 different shades and is also oil free.
  • A drugstore option that provides radiant, sheer-light coverage while still looking natural is the Rimmel BB Cream Radiance (£6.99). It does seem to come in only two shades is ridiculous but apart from that, it would be a great option and it also provides an SPF of 20.
  • If you want a drugstore foundation, then the Bourjois Healthy Mix Foundation (£9.99) is a great choice. It comes in nine shades, gives a radiant finish, contains vitamin c and lasts all day.

Other
There are a few more essentials that are worth mentioning that don’t quite fit into a specific category.

  • Liquid illuminators are a must have in Summer and a classic one that we all know of is the Nars Illuminator (£23/30ml). It comes in three shades and also a limited edition shade, ‘hot sand.’ It gives a beautiful natural glow where applied and can also be mixed in with your normal foundation to make your own custom glowy foundation.
  • A great drugstore alternative is the Maybelline Master Strobing Liquid Illuminating Highlighter (£7.99/25ml). It comes in two shades and like the Nars one, it can be put on specific parts of the face e.g. the cheekbones for a natural glow or it can be mixed with foundation.
  • Something everyone needs but no one ever thinks to buy is The Body Shop Shade Adjusting Drops (£10/15ml). In Summer your skin tone changes a lot and you might need to darken your current foundation or lighten the foundation you bought thinking you’d end up three shades darker. So, there is a lightening and a darkening version which work with most liquid foundations, not changing anything about them apart from their shade.

Being Made To Feel Insignificant & Having Your Feelings Invalidated

A couple of weeks ago, I was feeling quite anxious about something very specific that I was going to have to do. I told someone about this and they basically told me to get a grip because this certain person has had to do some things of a similar nature but on a slightly larger scale before (two specific things were mentioned) and they didn’t complain about having to do them. I don’t think anyone can even begin to understand how much this annoyed me. The main reason it annoyed me so much is because I’m not that person. We’ve not experienced the same things, we have completely different comfort zones, different confidence levels in situations like that and this person has inevitably experienced more things like this before because they are almost double my age (we tend to gain comfort and confidence doing something the more we do it). Just because someone isn’t phased by doing something big doesn’t mean another person will be totally fine with doing something smaller of a similar nature – everyone is different! To me the ‘little’ thing was a big deal and to them that ‘big’ thing was like tying your shoelace, so the ‘size’ of the matter doesn’t come in to it whatsoever.

Don’t ever let anyone dismiss you or make you feel worthless. Don’t let anyone make your feelings or your experiences seem invalid by comparison to their own or someone else’s feelings or experiences. Don’t ever feel like you can’t share your feelings or experiences out of fear of being made to feel insignificant or having your feelings invalidated because someone else’s feelings and experiences are made to seem more valid than yours. Even if someone is going through something ‘worse,’ your feelings are your feelings, and they most definitely are worthy, important and valid. No matter how big or small your experience is, it is valid and it is worthy. It doesn’t matter how big something is, it has the exact same significance as the little thing. Now, I’ve got a reputation for being a bitch and I’ll admit that I am one sometimes but I’d never dismiss someone or invalidate their feelings. The person is opening up to you, trusting you, confiding in you, and you dismiss them. Why? I’ll never understand it.

I’m not mad at the person who said these things to me. Yes, I’m annoyed about what they said, but I just hope they might be reading this and they never say something like that to anyone else ever again. The next person might not be as strong and they might not be able to realise that they aren’t the idiot but that the person saying this to them is. It might really affect them and make them feel like what they are feeling is silly and invalid. If you have been made to feel like that and you’re reading this, please know that your thoughts, feelings and experiences are your own and they are completely valid, important and not silly at all. Don’t let others compare you to others and definitely don’t start comparing yourself. You are you, you have your own experiences and emotions and don’t ever let anyone make you think otherwise. All of your feelings, emotions, experiences etc. are important. You are important. Remember that. If someone doesn’t see that, they aren’t important so get rid of them. Surround yourself by people who are going to support you through the so called ‘little’ things and of course the ‘big’ things too.