As I’ve mentioned before, I am most definitely an introvert. About 85% of the time I’d rather be enjoying my own company and socialising with people who I’m not that close with is a chore. I used to think it was weird that half the time I’d rather sit in silence when I’m around others but now I’ve accepted it as a part of who I am. And I’ve come to realise, it’s a part of a lot of others too. Even though at times it may be easier to enjoy socialising, I really love being an introvert and I wouldn’t change it for the world and I know the majority of other introverts feel the same way. I thought I would make a post that my fellow introverts will be able to relate to and please, if you do relate or want to say anything, leave a comment or privately contact me.
You’d rather be alone than with your friends the majority of the time. And it’s not because you don’t love your friends, it’s nothing to do with them specifically, it’s everyone, everyone that’s not you. You just need alone time to recharge and enjoy your own company and that is totally okay!
You’re a pro at getting out of social events and you know all of the excuses… I have a dentist appointment, my grandparents are visiting from Sweden, I feel sick (and will feel sick for the next two weeks). Even just the thought of having to socialise for hours on end, probably encountering that auntie who always asks you super personal questions is sometimes just to much. Or maybe you’d rather just sit at home all day, eating ice cream and watching Netflix.
You need your extroverted best friend with you at all times if you’re out at a party so they can carry the conversation and you can chip in here and there when you feel like it without seeming too rude (you’re still labelled as a rude bitch though). The pressure of having to have a one on one conversation with someone you’re only acquaintances with is enough to make you stay at home alone.
You’re labelled as a bitch because you don’t talk to people and they think that you think you’re better than them and you’re too good to talk to them – and that’s not the case at all. Most of the time you’re just in your own little world thinking about something else or you’ve already socialised too much. But then sometimes it is because they are the single most annoying human being you’ve ever met.
By the end of the school year you can’t cope with anyone and if you don’t get a break from everyone soon you feel like you’ll just crash… Then a number of weeks later when you have to go back to school, you’ve barely recharged at all and still won’t be able to cope with anyone.
You feel like a bad friend because you cancel plans a lot just because the thought of spending the day alone is so much more appealing. And if they knew that the reason you’d given wasn’t a reason, only an excuse, you feel like they’d be mad at you. But you know if you hadn’t cancelled, you would’ve been bad company because you wouldn’t have spoken.
You need alone time to recharge after leaving the house for a few hours just because you’ve been surrounded by other humans. It’s like their energy just drains yours. It’s like being mentally tierd. Extroverts will just never understand.
You’ve been called shy by literally everyone and it’s the most annoying thing ever (whether you are or not). Some introverts are shy (and that’s totally okay!) and some, like me, are not. Yes we enjoy our own company a lot, yes we love spending time alone and no we don’t need to be around people constantly. There is a difference between being an introvert and being shy. Some introverts are shy and some are not.
And you’ve been called socially awkward too. If you are socially awkward, you would not like to be called socially awkward and if you’re not it’s just annoying.
Meeting someone new is a bit too much. Having to make conversation with someone who you don’t know is a little bit awkward and because you’re not enthusiastic and having nothing to say or ask, it will seem like you don’t like them and they, like everyone else, will either lable you as rude or as a bitch because it seems like you think you’re too good to talk to them.
Phone calls are just out of the question whether it’s with a friend (a closer friend is a different story) or someone who you don’t know at all. That feeling you get when the phone rings is awful, but more so when you have to make the phone call. And the worst is when you have to phone that auntie who you never talk to for the birthday present that you didn’t even like.